following investigation had the purpose to understand from the psychological perspective the meaning of the through the experience of women who had lived forced disappearances in Buenaventura and who made part of the FUNDESCODES organization. Based in an investigative and interventive method three meetings were developed, One as a reflexive workshop with women victims of violence, and two more, in which the head leader and the director of the foundation were interviewed. The results of this work evidenced that crime of forced dissapearence had been used as an strategy of war, to shatter any social network, to set silence, fear, instigate distrust, and especially, to infringe rights of the relatives of missing persons and people from the same territory. At the same time, the meaning of being together were identified as a mechanism to built a collective memory, a possibility to strengthen identity and a weapon with the power to enforce their violated rights. Finally, this investigation allows to understand that breaking the silence in a context in which war continues, means a recognition and a process of resistance against the legitimation of that word which was taken from us, and which nowadays requires a collective repair to give us an answer of truth, justice and a guarantee that forced disappearance won t happen again.