#SinFechaDeVencimiento. Exposing the love that hurts, arises as a collective bet where romantic love is questioned as a promise, as a rule with which we measure our happiness, as a condition for merit, a fiction, an image, a tool to control mostly women, through speeches that combine abuse with affection. Questioning this way of relating enabled us to create over time a collective intergenerational space called: Circle of affective support and collective resilience, where women from different parts of Latin America built a network of support and sorority that allowed us to relate, re-narrate, relax and tell our detoxification processes while this project sought to problematize this model of love in our contexts as women, social leaders who have belonged or belong to some human rights promoting entity and organization or circle. Over time, this space contributed to the process of denaturalization and deconstruction of ideas regarding romantic love and allowed to collectively and collaboratively build tools of self-care to encourage self-love, demystifying and advancing on the path of eliminating all forms of violence against women -without generating magic formulas that pretend to be saving- as well as cultural studies that are to see them critically and don’t intend to save anyone, but look critically to shake some stabilized things.