Objective: to determine the differences or similarities between the violence that men and women exercise in dating relationships and their implications with respect to gender equity. Method: a cross-cutting, quantitative / non-experimental design was used; the sample was conformed by 110 youth, 60 women and 50 men whose average age was 16.9 years, college students from the city of Bogota, from three different institutions: two public and one private. The CTS (Conflict Tactic Scale), developed by Straus in 1979, was used as tool of data collection in order to learn about conflict and violence in family relations. Results: the existence of different kinds of violence in dating was revealed. Regarding the differences between men and women, it was determined that both male and female feel like victims and aggressors, which demystifies the courtship as an idyllic stage and, at the same time, questions the traditional of women as victims and men as aggressors. Conclusion: the results suggest the importance of early intervention with young people to change this behavior.